Everyone has heard and said the phrase "Life's not fair!" I recently heard this phrase from one of my little guys. My knee jerk reaction was to say "your right", life isn't fair and we all have to deal with that. After our brief discussion about life was over I spent some time reflecting on it. We always try to steer our children in the right direction with the right advice so I often like to think about our family discussions. This allows me to not only ensure I'm confident on the answers I give but also helps me get prepared for next time. On this occasion I decided that I made a mistake!
In reality LIFE IS FAIR! We just like to throw out the life is not fair comment when we don't get want we want. We use this thought process as an excuse to not work as hard as we should for what we want. If we actually accepted the idea that LIFE IS FAIR then we would all have to come to terms with ourselves and our levels of commitment and effort. Since we really don't want to do that we hide behind the fairness idea.
Saying life is not fair is the same as waving the white flag. It means I give up!
Don't get me wrong, we do all start life in different places. Some are going to be in a better financial situation than others. Some will be more physically gifted. Some will be more creatively gifted, and some may be more intellectually gifted in certain areas. This is a fact! Another fact is that we are all talented and gifted in our own ways. Tom Brady probably can't code for MIcrosoft and Bill Gates probably can't throw a 50 yard Touchdown. Yet both of these men have succeeded in their lives and are viewed as the top performers in their industries! HOW?
They figured out what they liked and what they were good at. Then they worked insanely hard with extreme effort, The result was incredible accomplishments and success! They are successful because they chose to commit and push themselves. Hard work and extreme effort are abilities everyone!
We are all good at something. It could be football, writing, photography, or computer science. Whatever it may be, you do have talents that can be cultivated. When you cultivate and nurture your talent you will find success. This is true and fair!
But wait!! If life were really fair than everyone would be a great success in one venue or another right?
Here's what separates those that say "LIFE'S NOT FAIR" from those who don't......
EFFORT is the key. As we just stating, everyone has a talent or talents that can be grown. This growth only comes through effort and determination. We are all born with the same ability to try, to put in effort, to succeed. This is why LIFE IS FAIR! We can all put in as much or as little effort as the next person. No one has the ability to try harder than someone else. We all have the same effort capabilities with in us.
In this sense, life is extremely fair!
Once we accept this fact we can clearly see that when we say life isn't fair we actually mean, I haven't put enough effort into getting what I want in life!
That's it! Life is fair! We can all push ourselves to the limit and nurture our talents so we become wildly successful in our lives! If the ability is the same within all of us then why aren't we all successful????
The simple answer is that a lot of us don't want to work that hard even though we can. That's the hard truth.
When's the last time you pushed yourself so hard physically that you thought you were going to throw up?
When's the last time you got home from work, fed the kids, put them to bed, and then stayed up working on your side business till your eyes burned?
I guarantee that there are people out there doing these things right now! These people have no time for life's not fair, in fact the thought never crosses their mind!
Now's the time! Decide today which group you want to be in!
Are you going to accept that life is fair? Or are you going to hide behind the life's not fair mentality?
I know which side I'm on!!! Leave us a comment, let us know what you think and share with someone you know who may need to hear this message.
Thanks for reading!
A little bit about me! I'm a family man with a lovely wife and three awesome boys. I have a bit of an entrepreneur bug. I started and sold my own company twice ( small businesses but the experience was valuable), I've dabbled in real estate, been an Ebay reseller, and also spent many years in management roles which is my current stream of income ( plus a few side streams I've put together). I'd say all in all I'm your typical guy trying to make a better life for his Family.