Happiness, what is it and how do we get it? As defined by Webster's Happiness is a "state of well being and contentment: JOY" Well being and contentment. let that sink in. Contentment is really the result of well -being. SO what is well being really? How to we achieve well being? Is it health, is it money, is it time?
It a short sentence well being is a sense of peace with how you are spending your time. Simple as that. If you aren't at peace with your time, then you cannot be considered in a state of well being!
Now that we have the clear understanding of well being we must work on achieving it. The means to do this is going to be different for everyone. We all have different ideas of how to spend our time, "different strokes for different folks as they say"!
My contention is that while there is no right answer for everyone, there is a right process. A process that will help define your right answer, a process that will help show you the path to achieve that answer, a process that will open doors to a level of happiness which you may have thought to be closed.
How do we start? Who's got an idea?.. (yes or no).. the first part of the process is to figure out the end goal. You need to know where finish line is before you can map out a way to get there! In this case the end goal is defining exactly how you want to spend your time.
For this process you need to immerse yourself in thought and reflection. You can not find your answer on social media, on TV, or from other people. To try and do so will surely end with a titanic result. Your thoughts can not be influenced by images of sports cars and designer clothes supposedly providing joy and happiness. This is what society and marketers want you to believe, you need to determine your own beliefs and ideals, your own happiness!
During you self realization time you need to think of what brings you joy, peace, and contentment. Time is your most precious asset, what are you willing to spend it on? Playing with the kids? following your passion? Exercising? Achievements? Really dive into this. Get down to the tiniest detail. Is it Travel? Do you really want to live out of a suitcase, are your kids going to be home schooled? Think of all aspects.
It takes work to find your true needs of well being and contentment. But if we are to find our answers we must put in the work. Only once we truly understand ourselves can we determine our well-being needs. Only once these are determined can we begin to formulate a plan to obtain these needs. Only once the plan is made can we achieve happiness. Contentment will be found in the knowing, knowing you are on your way to happy, knowing that if you stay the course you will get to where you want to be, and knowing you are in control of your life and your dreams.
A little bit about me! I'm a family man with a lovely wife and three awesome boys. I have a bit of an entrepreneur bug. I started and sold my own company twice ( small businesses but the experience was valuable), I've dabbled in real estate, been an Ebay reseller, and also spent many years in management roles which is my current stream of income ( plus a few side streams I've put together). I'd say all in all I'm your typical guy trying to make a better life for his Family.