I've been lucky enough to have three children. Its amazing to watch them grow, learn and develop. My kids all have different personalities and interests. My oldest is a sports kid, my middle guy is more of a crafter, and my little one is still trying to figure it out. While they are unique in many ways they all seem to act the same way when it comes to getting what they want. As a matter of fact, this is true for most kids.
Is there a reason for this? Yes! 9 times out or 10 it works and kids are smart! They see another child act a certain way and get rewarded they tend to do the same in hopes of the same result. A child's methods for obtaining what they desire is time tested and proven. In the younger years it involves a lot of temper tantrums, crying, and screaming. At some point we all grow out of this phase which is necessary as we can't act this way as adults. Even though we can't act this way as adults there are still very valuable lessons to be learned from children. These lessons should not be given up as an adult, but remembered and utilized frequently.
When it comes to getting what you want, act like a child!
Do I mean crying, whining and causing a scene? No, although that may work in some instances!
First things First: Ask for what you want! When your a kid and you want ice cream you don't think twice about asking for it. There's no doubts that you should ask for or that you deserve some ice cream. You just ask!
As adults our mentality changes. We often don't ask for that raise we want because we are afraid the boss will get mad. We don't ask a friend for help with something because we don't want to them to feel obligated. This is the wrong way to think about it!
We need to act more like a child to get what we want. We should never be afraid to ask for anything, EVER! I never get mad at my children for asking for ice cream, just as your boss wont get mad if you ask for a raise or friend won't get upset if you ask for a favor. Get rid of your doubts and just ask for what you want! You will be surprised at the results!
Second: Don't take no for an answer. As adults we hear no and we just stop. We think that is the end of the conversation. A child knows different, they know it's just the beginning.
What happens when a child hears the word no? They respond with why? Please? Why? But I really want it? Please? This tends to go on for a while until they get a yes or they are too exhausted to keep asking.Why we give up on this tactic as adults is beyond me! It worked for so many years but we no longer use it. We need to bring it back! Keep asking and keeping pushing for the things you want in life! Exhaust all options before you stop!
Usually this barrage of pleading and asking pays off and the child gets that ice cream! It will work for us as adults as well as long as we have courage to do it!
There are a few rare instances when the constant asking/pleading has not worked. Mom or Dad has withstood the onslaught and held their ground! What is a child to do ? Give up? NO WAY! They just go and start the process all over again with the person who hasn't said no yet. Whether it's the other parent, a sibling, or the always likely to work grandparents!
We don't do this as adults, we just take whatever we get and we hope for a different answer down the road. This is nonsense! If a bank says NO on a loan, go to 30 more banks till you get a yes! Your boss says no to a raise, ask him what you can do to get one in the next 6 months (then do it)! If he says there's nothing that can be done, find a different boss!
In order to get what you want out of this world you need to channel your 11 year old self! ASK for what you want! Keep asking even if the answer is no! If that doesn't work, ask someone else until you get a yes. If you practice these three behaviors when it comes to your goals, dreams, and desires you will succeed in acquiring them and achieving your HappyHealthyHundreds Lifestyle!
Who Knew? You had it all figured out at age 11!
The Kids are All Right when it comes to getting what they want!
Thanks for reading,
A little bit about me! I'm a family man with a lovely wife and three awesome boys. I have a bit of an entrepreneur bug. I started and sold my own company twice ( small businesses but the experience was valuable), I've dabbled in real estate, been an Ebay reseller, and also spent many years in management roles which is my current stream of income ( plus a few side streams I've put together). I'd say all in all I'm your typical guy trying to make a better life for his Family.